Fringe (not fridge) Benefits
by Sarah S., your NoVAtions editor
Coming to OA has been one of the best things I’ve ever done, and honestly it has little to nothing to do with food. I have grown and become a better overall person because of program. Here are just a few of the ways OA has benefited me… and those around me!
- I have better relationships. I’m more considerate without straying into people-pleasing territory, and I have more strongly defined boundaries. And learning that “other people” is the number one thing I cannot change helps me accept others as they are, and that makes everyone happy!
- I’m a better boss. I’m better able to have difficult conversations, give feedback, manage people the way they want to be managed, and cultivate a safe, creative environment where we can all do our best work. It’s not perfect, but it’s so much better than before, and it keeps improving.
- I’m less reactive. I’m a pretty angry, irritable person, but the OA program of recovery has given me the tools and mindset to step back and ask why I’m angry. If a situation irritates me, I am able (most of the time) to pause and discover what’s really going on… usually it’s defensiveness because of something that bothers me about myself. I have also learned to take a second to remember that, for example, screaming at people on the Beltway is not going to improve their driving, but it will make me unhappy.
But the greatest benefit of becoming a member of OA is the incredible family of fellows; those who totally get me; those who support me; those who share their experience, strength, and hope; those who tell me how they are doing in but don’t judge or dictate; those who make OA home.